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Posted by Jonathan Chant on 19:45, August 11, 2006

Gotta get something off my chest. Why on earth can’t a guy compliment a girl without people getting the wrong idea? Is our rep that bad?

Well, the reason I bring this up is because in the past 6 months, there have been two seperate occasions where I complimented a girl and got reactions that I didn’t really like all that much. And for some reason, I think about it every so often. The first time, I was talking to some friends about Urbana 03 and about the worship team there. I commented on how I really enjoyed it when the Korean girl lead and thought she was a great worship leader. Immediately, the only girl in the car (also the only other person in the car who had been to Urbana 03 also) went off about how so many of her guy friends developed a crush on her. That was not what I was saying at all! I just thought she was really spirit led when she worshipped! The second time, I was having dinner with some other friends and I commented on how one of my (guy) friend’s sister was really cool. Again, immediately, the only girl there pipes up and was like “oooooo, you (my guy friend) better watch out for Jon!”. gah!!! I then had proceed to explain how that wasn’t what I was saying at all, I was just saying how lucky he is to have a sister as cool as her.

*sigh* Why do girls have to assume we have the wrong intentions whenever we give a compliment? Can’t you give us the benifit of the doubt? Maybe it’s not just the girls. Maybe us guys have just screwed up our rep so bad that people think that all we ever think about is girls. *sigh* (again). I don’t know what to do, I just needed to let that out.

On another note, World Trade Center looks like it’s going to be a pretty hype movie and a real tear-jerker. The website is really well done too. One of the best designed websites I’ve ever seen. Anybody up for watching it sometime soon?

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One Response to “why???”

  1. James H said

    Hey, it’s James from Windsor.

    I struggled with this entry in your blog, and even more with whether or not to respond. But I have to.

    I want you to read what you wrote here: “Why do girls have to assume we have the wrong intentions whenever we give a compliment?”

    Wrong intentions? Jon, why is being attracted to a girl “wrong intentions”? Not only is their assumption safe nearly 100% of the time, but they don’t look down on you for it either. Furthermore, they’re just teasing you.

    I don’t mean to sound harsh, but I think you’re taking their comments a little too far. Just relax and tease back. One of my favorite retorts to an “ooh… you (my guy friend) better watch jon!” type of comment, is a simple “Damn skippy! In three weeks, she shall be mine!”

    Besides, you’re clearly crushing on the Korean girl-worship team-leader ;)

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